Consider these thoughts for a moment:
-Our freedom to choose is the expression of our creative power.
-Our life showcases what we create.
-Our experiences are examples of how we create.
I love Life! It has answers to anything and everything – always.
As I was looking for a topic to write about, invariably, Life provided exactly what I needed, though it wasn’t what I liked! But as it unfolded, I knew that it brought me exactly what I was looking for: a topic and an opportunity…
Every situation that comes our way is here to teach us, to show us something. It’s an opportunity to change in some way or to look at something from a different perspective. Most notably, all disempowering situations – the ones that upset us and aren’t what we want – are incredible opportunities that show up and present us with options to see differently, to choose differently, to create differently.
Everything we do is a choice! Every reaction to something or someone is a choice. In any instance, all there is is an event; how we perceive it creates our experience of it. First there is the judgement or our perception of the event, then we feel a feeling based on that judgement, which in turn creates the emotions that create the experience. Only then, once we are experiencing the experience, do we become fully aware of whether it’s good or bad. What we are not aware of is that, good or bad, WE have created the flavor of that experience.
What has been missing or has been greatly misunderstood, as we experience our lives, is that the power of creation lies in our power of the freedom to choose. You see, between an event and our reaction to it (or judgement of it) is a space where all things are neutral - and that’s where the magic happens. This space is where we chose. This space is where we create. The problem is that it all happens so fast we don’t even realize it and no one ever told us that this space of neutrality is the sweet spot of creation. This is where the creative power of choice is and has always been.
It took me a long time before I came to realize this simple yet profound fact – I create my life’s experiences with how and what I choose! I had MANY opportunities to choose differently before I finally did! Even so, the opportunities still come my way because, as I say, there is always room for tweaking!
If you have any questions or you’d like to share any experiences with YOUR Creative Power of Choice, please share in the comments below. We truly learn from each other, don’t we?
There is much sadness in my heart and around the world today. ‘When will this craziness end?’ echoes throughout the social media. But of whom do we really ask this question, and what will the answer be?
What if we are the answer?
How can a person, or a group of people, think it’s okay to aim and shoot at a passenger plane full of innocent people who have not a thing to do with whatever their cause is, HOW?!
What did they say to each other, and themselves individually, as they collectively agreed to kill? Does it even matter what it was? My answer is NO. What does matter is the fact that they represent the part of us which knows no Love. Instead, their hearts are filled with the absence of Love. That is the reason that plane was downed and all those people lost their lives and their families and friends lost them.
There are many opinions, anger and outrage, calls to end and heal this pain we all keep having to endure, over and over again, as ‘those terrorists’ keep inflicting it upon us.
Coincidentally, the day this happened, I was reading an excellent book by Gary Zukav “The Seat of the Soul” and resonated very deeply with his words. Here are some highlights from pages 69 – 72:
“What we call evil is the absence of Light, or love. In all cases. …A personality with limitations of consciousness will find what we call evil more attractive than will one with a more expended awareness. …How we understand evil, therefore, is very significant. Evil needs to be understood for what it is: the dynamic of the absence of Light. It is not something that one should prepare to battle, to run from or to outlaw. …The remedy for an absence is presence. Evil is an absence and, therefore, cannot be healed with an absence. By hating evil, or one who is engaged in evil, you contribute to the absence of Light and not to its presence. …Can an absence be defeated? An evil person can be arrested, but can evil be arrested? …A compassionate heart is more effective against evil than an army. A compassionate heart can engage evil directly – it can bring Light where there was no Light.”
I firmly believe that the ONLY way to end the violence in this world is to show true compassion to those how perpetrate it. We have been asking, pleading, imprisoning, waging wars against IT for far too long and, as far as I can tell, not much has changed – actually a lot has changed but not in the desired way. There is only more violence, happening more frequently, and the perpetrators are getting younger attacking the young and defenceless. What we are doing in not working! We need a change!
Consider this: What if this is yet another opportunity for us to contemplate this change? What if this is another chance to look within for a different answer, for another way? Not another way to handle the perpetrator but for us to handle our grief, pain, judgement, and condemnation. When we point a finger at another we take away Love and we dim or even extinguish our Light. We add to the lack of light and, in that moment, we, too, become perpetrators. What if this is an opportunity to Love; to express authentic love, to love that which we deem unlovable? An opportunity to bring Light where there is absence of Light.
We, who know Love, need not give it only to some and not others. We, who know Love, need to fill the spaces and hearts which are devoid of it, regardless of where or who they belong to. This, I believe, is the ONLY WAY to eradicate the evil and restore that which we ALL long for – Peace of Earth. Though, first, we must find it in our hearts and be willing to give it away…to anyone and everyone…
I now challenge you to consider if you could find it in Your Heart to send Love to where, instead, you want to condemn. I know it might seem hard, but I also know it’s quite simple to do – just open your heart fully, to everything. True Love and Compassion is just that…
*** My sincerest condolences to the families and friends of those who were on flight MH17. You are Loved and prayed for by millions around the globe, including me. May you find comfort in knowing that, and please know that no life is ever lost in vain. ***
You can tell me how you did with my challenge in the comments below… either way, I love you... and change is coming...
Today, Friday the 13, 2014, a day of magical Full Moon, I am blessed as I have always been. Today, I am grateful for all that I am, all that I have experienced and learned; I treasure the re-directions I withstood along the way which led me back onto my Path.
Today, I wish to unlearn that which does not serve me any longer; that which I misunderstood...
There are simple messages in life we often interpret through the filter of fear, changing their meaning significantly, even entirely. We create a story by weaving together the misinterpreted messages and believing them to be the fabric of our existence.
Today, I only ask to lessen my tendency for misinterpretation born out of fear. Today, I believe it is all I need to do to create what I came here to create – I already have the rest – my will & desire to serve and fulfill my Purpose.
I also embrace and let go of my need to release ALL OF IT so as to not create another story of incapability. All is superbly perfect as is. I let go and get into the Flow of my experience of life as it is meant to be. Taking each step as intended long ago, advancing gently and enjoying the journey as it unfolds – gradually…
What do you wish to release this magical Full Moon on Friday the 13th?
Do you make plans that never pan out? Do you break your own promises and then dislike yourself for it? I know how this feels…
There have been countless times when I promised myself I would do something – something I really, really wanted to do; something that was very important and, quite often, really good for me. There were even times when I would jot down plans of action, list goals, and print out statements declaring “by this date I shall start doing so & so” or “on this day I shall stop doing so & so.” Only to find myself, months past that date, wondering what the heck happened!
Sounds familiar? Do you list ‘valid’ reasons as to why none of your great intentions came to be? I have too! But then, eventually, I began to ponder the big ‘whys’; why all those reasons were even there, why the list? And I kept on asking myself these questions:
A. What is this about? What am I doing? Why am I resisting and sabotaging that which I want, wish for, and desire?
B. Why am I doing this? What’s wrong with me? Why do I resist what I want? What’s the reason – the real reason?
Let’s consider some facts…
Before I could understand the mechanism and ‘complexity’ of resistance, I had to first become aware of its presents; and I did. Awareness is everything. What followed was quite interesting. I wanted to understand why I did resist all the good I wanted and what this resistance was really about.
First let's define it. What is resistance?
· It can be described as the refusal to accept or comply with something
· The attempt to prevent something by action or argument
· And anything that slows or stops movement or keeps something from happening
Yes, I tried them all! But I most closely relate to the “stopping or slowing of movement” part. I wanted to move on, away, or toward something and it just wasn’t happening. Why? The issue may appear to be complex, but the answer is a lot simpler than you may think. Though there are three factors to consider, essentially, there is only one reason – FEAR.
Let me explain:
1. Fear of failure
‘What if I fail, what if it doesn't work out?’ says the mind. Most of us know this phrase very well, even though, at times, its presents is not that obvious as the mind whispers it ever so quietly. We then worry about what others will think if we don’t get to our goal, if we come up short. So, to avoid the expected criticism and embarrassment, we either stop or slow the movement toward getting to our goal. If we don’t start, we won’t fail; if we don’t fail, we won’t get criticized and feel embarrassed; we’re safe this way!
2. Fear of success
This flavor of fear can be even less detectable. ‘How can I be afraid of succeeding?’ you might object. Well, here is how: things will change! No matter what your goal (new job, relationship, body, etc.), once you achieve it, your life will be different in some way. And, whether we admit it or not, we all resist change; usually because we are afraid of what unknowns will accompany it. Ah yes…the good old comfort zone. We stay put and things stay the same. We’re safe, again!
3. Doubt & Disbelief
This, I think, is the most disguised and unexpected reason for resistance, and it took me a while to realize – and yes, I had help. But once I got it, it really made a lot of sense and explained much of what was happening in my life.
The fact that we don’t believe ‘IT’- whatever IT may be - is a very powerful reason we experience resistance. The truth is, that somewhere deep inside of ourselves, we do not believe in the possibility or attainability of that which we want. Subconsciously, we simply don’t believe in it. We doubt we can have a different body, different career, or a better relationship. Meanwhile, on the surface, we tell ourselves that this time we can do IT! This time is going to be different! We perpetuate our own illusion.
Ready to dive in a little bit deeper?
On the surface, with excitement, we start yet another diet or exercise regime or job search because, by golly, this time we’ll finally get results. My favorite proclamation is: “Okay! Staring Monday…I will...blah, blah, blah...” I know most of you know this way of planning for success, right? How has it worked for you? It has not worked for me – why? I did not believe it would, or that I could actually do it, or that I was good enough or deserving enough of the results! Though important in the process of full exploration of the resistance issue, the reason is not that relevant here. What is relevant is that, deep down inside myself, I simply did not believe IT!
You see, your friend Resistance is keeping you from getting to a point at which all your doubts and disbeliefs have a chance to become evident in your conscious experience. You don't believe in what's on the other side. You don't believe in the possibility of what you want and that is why you resist it! In other words, you’d rather indulge or even suffer Resistance than find out, for sure, that you really can’t do IT; that you aren’t good enough; and that you don’t deserve the results. So you keep yourself from trying to get them because you're afraid to find out you can't. Sad, isn’t it?
Who are you on the other side of the Resistance? What will you feel like once there? How will your life change?
If you’re ready to challenge your resistance then asking the above questions is a perfect place to start. I believe that solutions to any problems lie in the quality of the questions you are willing to ask yourself and the depth of the answers you provide. This usually starts with a simple ‘why?’ and is followed by some understanding, a bit of curiosity, and a lot of courage. I know you have all those things and more. I also know that the more resistance you feel the more ready you are for that which awaits you on the other side. Consider the following quote (one of my all-time favorites) and tell me what you think in the comment section below.
“Most of us have two lives, the life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance” – Steven Pressfield
If you’d like more information, guidance and support conquering Resistance, you can get in touch with me here.
© 2015 Marta Stanczyk. All rights reserved.
About the Author
In early Spring of 2011, as I sat with my journal at a family cabin, I felt the seed of my creative writing come through from beneath the surface. As I picked up my pen to begin my first journal entry, I felt a feeling of profound peace and indescribable comfort. All was well. I felt I was Home - finally!