The mind is a funny place that occupies no space. Curiously enough, it holds the space in which we create our life’s experiences. And in that space, two main characters are at play: Love & Fear – the perfect expressions of duality, the illustration of good and bad, the contrast between light and darkness.
As first expressed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, there are only two emotions: love and fear. Or, as she pointed out, there can either be love or fear because we cannot feel both at the same time. And as I poetically add: it’s either one or the other that has the stage, as it’s only one we can engage.
Have you ever worried about something, wished you’d stop the worrying, but just couldn’t?
You know why?
It was because, then, fear had the stage.
Fear is caused by the anticipation or the awareness of danger or pain. Danger can be real or perceived and pain can be physical or emotional.
Either way, in our mind, we believe that something we won't like or do not wish for is imminent, therefore, we fear its arrival. We fear it will bring danger or pain or both. It is the grand precursor to worry, a state of mind full of unease and anxiety in which we make mental attempts to avoid what we believe is coming. Worry can be just bothersome or paralyzing; I’m familiar with both.
For many years, I’ve been lost in the labyrinth of fear, worry, and more fear.
Yes, it compounds as we ruminate and rehearse the worst case scenarios and play out the awful what-ifs. The world gets darker, the options get fewer, and the way out of that labyrinth fades into the thick fog of doom. Next, we find ourselves in the grips of that fear holding us in place, stuck in the worry where doors of possibility are shut.
"What if this doesn't work out?"
"What if I lose my job?"
"What if I run out of money?"
The reason we remain stuck in fear is because we don't answer those questions.
Instead, we pace the labyrinth of worry.
Not knowing, or remembering, that the moment we even attempt to answer them is the birth of change.
…that strong need to know more, to go deeper. The insatiable desire to learn, to investigate, to unveil a new discovery, a breakthrough leading to a consideration of another possibility...
Curiosity has the power to move you forward, to guide you out of unbearable circumstances looming in that dense fog. It holds the power to transform unfulfilled dreams, impossible odds, and painful outcomes. It creates a path away from the anticipation of danger or pain, of loss or disappointment.
That is exactly what curiosity has done for me, over and over again.
“What if it doesn’t work out?”
whispers fear, never allowing the answer to emerge from the darkness, thus remaining on the stage firmly.
“I wonder how this will work out?”
is curiosity’s connotation. Do you notice a shift? Can you feel the difference?
I hope you can because this is curiosity creating possibility and opening doors before unseen. Doors through which light can enter just enough for hope to emerge – finally!
Finally crossing over to the space of peace and wonder. That space we innately know as Love.
Your mind is yours to serve YOU. Your thoughts are YOURS to direct in the story
of your life as you engage the characters that will play the lead roles.
Curiosity is a beautiful gift.
Use it to connect worry to possibility.
As a conduit between fear and love.
Love, where all good things are possible.
Now, just for fun, consider this thought…
What do you think?
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Much LOVE to you,
About the Author
In early Spring of 2011, as I sat with my journal at a family cabin, I felt the seed of my creative writing come through from beneath the surface. As I picked up my pen to begin my first journal entry, I felt a feeling of profound peace and indescribable comfort. All was well. I felt I was Home - finally!